It is not possible to rationalize love. It is either there or it is not there.
The only problem to it is when a personal choice rationalizes love.
This is not a dissertation or as a defense of love. Loving does not meant to hurt, unless one is mentally deranged or suffering from some kind of hatred for a person.
There will always be that one man or one woman that appears from out of nowhere in one’s life and makes a profound impact. Some live their entire life and are never blessed to meet one. There is no possible way to rationalize how that ever happens.
Conventional love for whatever it is worth, it has not been the answer to marital bliss as can be seen from the number of broken marriages and broken homes. Conventional love is hyped to ridiculous and even ambitious levels of so called happiness that it purports to deliver, but it hardly does.
And for that reason, people shrug and throw their arms despairingly and say, “Marriages are made in Heaven” due to their inability to provide suitable explanation when the marriage turns out not to be what it ought to be by conventional understanding. Very cynical of course and even blasphemous but it does not say God.
Coming to the precise point now, the fact that when the foundation of love is so badly shaken, it is because of some of the explanations were mentioned above.
There is no religion, no laws, no institution, no support from family, relative or friend can state directly what a marriage ought to be except that these only ratify that a marriage did occur. And that’s where their involvement as far their involvement goes. It ends as soon as it began.
Love is sacred unto itself. Isn’t love described as the image of God Himself?
And then, why should love cause hurt? Hurt when there was no evil done or intended. And my answer to that is – love causes hurt when there is falsehood. Love being a virtue cannot co-exist when something is false. Hence, hurt and pain results.
This may seem all junk but if we care to reflect deeply enough, perhaps we will find in it that love in all its purity is not something that can be rationalized. It’s too pure to be rationalized. On the contrary, pain and hurt can be rationalized because it deals with the opposite of virtue.
Long Live Love!
General Santos Time
