Does Absence Make The Heart Grow Fonder?

There is a proverb for every psychological movement of our human emotions. We’ve all had our experiences from our earliest recollections of being away from someone near and dear. Although it is heart rending in varying degrees for different individuals, there is a common denominator that is shared by all.

Sometimes, we become fearful by the “out of sight, out of mind” syndrome and it can wreak imaginings of the worst kind as our feelings of missing the person gets compounded by doubts.

It takes blind trust and moral strength to get past the darkness. Not even our jobs and chores are able to keep the mind on an even keel as we yearn for the person who’s presence fulfilled us in many ways.

As though philosopher and writer, Kalil Gilbran knows what personal anguish is brought upon humans when their spirits are troubled by such, he wrote:

But let there be space in your togetherness,

And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:

Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.

Fill each other’s cup but drink not from the same cup.

Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.

Sing and dance together and be Joyous, but let each one of you be alone.

Even as the strings of the lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together, yet not too near together

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

(The Prophet)

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10 responses to “Does Absence Make The Heart Grow Fonder?

  1. My oh mY! I so love this post! Thanks for sharing this. It truly gives a learning lesson to all about relationship:)


    Lainybelle Reply:


    Haha! Thanks Teh! Nakarelate ka? 😉


  2. I have been there and yes it’s true, absence makes the heart grow fonder (in my case anyway). Luckily, with the technology that we have these days, bridging the gap of those absences makes it easier for both parties.


  3. It’s always “fonder” for me based on my experience. However, it’s not always the case for the “supposed” recipient of that fondness. I always end up in the losing end.

    The moral issues of being “faithful” and “loyal” should also take in place when there’s a big distance between two hearts. I just don’t know why people abuse that just because they’re apart. 🙁


  4. awww… this is nice, when you’re into a relationship of 15 years you sure have to ask for a breather even just a bed space apart.. hehehe… I think this philosophy depends on each one circumstances, it may and might not work for every one. So long as you’re confident and trust each other, no space nor distance can get in between, only the heart can tell. 🙂


  5. i so love the poem, and which is so true, i have witnessed several relationship fell apart because of a lack of trust and an almost choking relationship.


  6. I think it’s 50/50…it works for others though. Growing up in the Philippines, I saw marriages and relationships got broken because of absence/distance…but with high technologies these days…madali nalang yung communication.


  7. Why be troubled when you can reminisce those happy moments. Be still, watch, and let TIME and SPACE run their show. They can make rainbows to bridge longing hearts.


  8. Oh! I remember those lonely days while my boyfriend that time (now my husband) is thousand miles away from me 🙁 It is not easy being away from the love of your life 🙁 I am glad that he calls me constantly, send me letters with pictures and it makes life easier until we meet again 🙂


  9. ….true love keeps people together…loved reading this and made me think how relationships could sometimes fail because partners grow apart not because of physical distance but individual differences that communication can’t bridge…the poem inspired me to love in such a way that I do not forget myself 🙂 happy weekend and happy loving! 😀


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